how we can eliminate your fear
As you probably realise from direct personal experience you cannot make yourself feel happy when you are sad, you cannot make yourself courageous when you are scared and you cannot make yourself feel confident when you are shy. The fact is that your feelings are something seperate and apart from you. They are something that generally happen to you as opposed to being generated by you. They are the product of a complex, mental and emotional system within your human system. In fact you exercise extremely limited control over your emotional states. Therefore trying to manipulate yourself to stop feeling a certain way whether through positive thinking, affirmations or willpower is a total waste of time.
Feelings such as shyness do not resolve themselves in a logical linear way which you have control over. However just because you can't directly affect your feelings, does not mean that you can do nothing to help your situation. The innovative interactive Nervous Guy Online Learning Program involves 6 key steps which have been specifically designed to indirectly influence your feelings and provide the psychological states through which your shyness and anxiety around beautiful women naturally resolve themselves. The steps themselves are as follows…
Step 1- Acceptance and Understanding
Instead of following the old ineffective paradigm of labelling your fear as ‘bad’ and beating yourself up for feeling the way you do about approaching women. The process brings you to a place of, firstly, acceptance and then complete understanding of why you act the way you do when it comes to approaching women. From this perspective, you cease to criticise yourself personally for having this fear and instead begin to treat the fear as an impersonal feature of how you as a human being are constructed.
Step 2- Questioning
The Nervous Guy Programme realises the biggest barrier to change is not our resistance to learning something new. It’s that we think we already know “the truth.” When we learn something we hold it as a belief. We think of this belief as a cast iron fact out there in the real world. Our beliefs, in turn, determine what we do, what we think and feel, and our perceptions of the world. It is perfectly natural for us to act consistently with our beliefs. It’s difficult, if not impossible, for us to act inconsistently with our beliefs over the long run without the use of a tremendous amount of willpower. The fact is that what appears to be widespread resistance to change is nothing more than people acting consistently with their existing beliefs.
To combat this, the ‘Nervous Guy’ Process provides you with an in depth and extremely effective way of eliminating COMPLETELY AND PERMANENTLY the beliefs which no longer serve you; beliefs that have probably blighted your life from the time you were a very small child. In all we eliminate 15 limiting and core self esteem beliefs and 4 conditioned emotional responses using unique specially designed cognitive processes.
Seen in this light then, the core of the Nervous Guy process is more one of ‘unlearning’ rather than ‘learning’. Through firstly a series of carefully guided dialogues, we bring you to an experiential realisation of the true nature of what is real going on out there in reality and in doing so free you from the chains of your over-active imagination that have kept you bound in your undesirable behavior patterns.
Step 3- Constructive Imagination
The use of constructive imagination in altering behavior is a subject that generally divides people into two camps. On the one hand we have the hardnosed cynics who deride the mere suggestion that the art of ‘mental picturing’ has any meaningful impact on your actions and behaviors in the real world. On the other hand, we have the ‘true believers’ who believe if they sit and daydream long enough, mysterious laws of the Universe will be invoked that will bring everything their heart desires right to their doorstep without the need for any effort on their part.
The truth as always falls somewhere between the two camps. While Constructive Imagination does not negate the need for planning, effort, hard work and even a modicum of willpower, it, nevertheless, is a valid, powerful and very real tool you have at your disposal in altering behavior and manifesting very real positive results in your life.
The ‘Nervous Guy’ Process shows you the correct, most efficient and enjoyable way to use your imagination and in doing restores you as the central creative force within your own life.
Step 4 – Self Reliance
Step 4 is all about getting off the merry-go-round and starting to live your life. Too often the very things that we feel are helping us get over our negative behaviors are the very things that reinforce them. Step 4 shows you how to implement ‘the law of reversed effort’ to help you break the endless cycle of trying to get an answer or remedy to your emotional problems and opens the door for you to a great, new exciting fulfilling life.
Step 5 – Spontaneity Drills
Shyness and timidity is not just something you are, it is also something you do. In this step we get you to engage in new patterns of thought and action that helps you break free of your excessive care for other peoples opinions of you. Through a series of fun games and awareness exercises we introduce crucial new distinctions and help you assimilate new action patterns that facilitate the release of the spontaneous, charismatic person that has always been within you waiting to break out.
Step 6- The Missions
Action and behaviour is always the most effective way through which we can influence feelings. The final step thereofre is the missions, where we get you to start approaching women. Each of the 18 missions builds on the success of the last and coupled with the increased self-confidence from doing the previous 5 steps, the entire process starts a beneficent cycle upwards where your fears and shyness are obliterated completely and replaced with calm and effortless confidence.
The ‘Nervous Guy’ Program appreciates however the resistance, most people feel to actually getting out there ‘in the field’ and applying what they’ve learned. To combat that we’ve included a number of incredibly effective techniques that will get you out of your room and get you to take constructive action out there in the world…and enjoy yourself in the process!
By going through these six steps we indirectly alter how you feel about approaching women from being a fearful activity to one that is fun and enjoyable. Better yet the process is simple, only requires a minimum time investment and the results are PERMANENT. You can spend the rest of your life if you wish, talking and interacting with beautiful women with ease! Better yet the skills and principles learned from this course can be applied to any area of your life where you desire to see change.